Hot Sex for Christians and Jews

Sex. It’s a subject that Christians seem notoriously reluctant to talk about except when they’re condemning it. Yet our sexuality is at the core of who we are, defining the way we think of ourselves and how we relate — or fail to relate — to others. It defines us, disrupts us, has the potential to destroy us.

But when we accept it, when we begin to see our sexuality as God’s gift, as something good, everything changes — everything must change. No longer a weapon to dominate others; no longer a tool to manipulate people; but rather, part of a relationship to be revelled in.

Publishers WeeklyThis week, Donna Freitas at Publishers Weekly presents a roundup of forthcoming titles offering both Christian and Jewish perspectives on this inevitably hot topic: 

In my work as a scholar, I write about sex and religion all the time—for college students—and pride myself on the ability to engage even the most explicit questions on the subject. When books for this article began arriving in my lobby, without thinking, I ripped open the first package to find it filled with explicit, faith-based sex manuals—which I then quickly carried upstairs and stashed under the couch.

Turns out, I’m more prude than I thought.

Apparently, sex is not only a gift from God, but it’s a hot gift—if you work at it—according to Dr. Les Parrott’s Crazy Good Sex: Putting to Bed the Myths Men Have About Sex (Zondervan, May).

“Faith perspective books either deal with sex and crisis—topics like porn and adultery—or see sex through a clinical, mechanical lens. Faith-based sexuality is so often portrayed as a burden and not a gift, as something that needs to be fixed or brought before God and disciplined,” says Dudley Delffs, senior v-p and publisher of trade books at Zondervan, about the decision to publish Parrott’s newest title. “Parrott offers us something else—he’s a tried and true voice, a guy who can write to average men about sex and intimacy. He makes sexuality clean and natural and wholesome, something that God intended for good and constructive purposes.”

And yes, clean, natural and wholesome includes “passion and ‘hot monogamy’ with your spouse,” Delffs adds.

Thanks to Wendy Woudstra, @pubcentral on twitter, for her tweet drawing my attention to this article.

Which books on sex and relationships would you recommend, and why; and which do you stock?